I am grateful
I am grateful to you for giving your precious time to reading my post.
Even though this year (2020) has been horrible for all of us, there is a lot of things that could be much, much worse. For this thought alone, I find there is so much I feel grateful for.
I am grateful for having more time with my family. Children grow fast, and with the start of my full time job I have seen them no more than a couple hours a day, in which we had to squeeze the meals, baths, homework and all things children hate doing.
I am grateful for my family staying well and healthy this year.
I am grateful for a low-key summer we spent playing, reading and dining in the garden.
I am grateful for all the learning and experience I’ve had this year.
I am grateful for not only being able to work through the pandemic but seizing the opportunity to get the job I always wanted.
I am grateful for having a roof over our heads, for having food and water.
I am grateful for never losing hope throughout the pandemic – for always having a clear focus on the Why and doing everything possible to serve that Why.
I am grateful to myself for being as compassionate and empathic as I am and for being able to teach my children the same. I am grateful for accepting myself and those around me as we are.
Finally, I am grateful for surviving 2020. This is the single, most important accomplishment we must be grateful for.
When I look back on 2020, I see a year that have been devastating for so many people – in so many ways. Nine months have passed in uncertainty and fright: the death toll, the daunting numbers from the daily case reports, job losses, pay cuts, restrictions and lockdowns. I grieve with all my heart for those affected by the pandemic, as well as those whose mental health and other health conditions were affected.
This year feels almost apocalyptic. If we concentrate on these horrible events, it isn’t difficult to lose the last of hope and light that we have carried in our hearts for the greater part of the year. But if we do that, we will help no one. You cannot help a sinking person if you can’t stay afloat.
Accepting the situation is necessary to be able to cope with it, but we must not lose sight of the shore. We must not lose hope – because if there’s no hope, what else is there for us? What else is there for those who suffered?
This has been pretty much my mindset throughout the pandemic, for which I am grateful.
And now it is time to look at the next step in our journey towards a better 2021:
HOW TO SET YOURSELF FOR A BETTER 2021
Step 2: Gratitude
Gratitude is the simplest, yet one of the most powerful tools for reshaping your mind. Researchers and psychologists believe that a simple act of gratitude can change the pathways in the brain that affect the person’s wellbeing. It can improve both your mental and physical health.
As previously discussed, we have a natural tendency to focus on the negative, which negatively affects our mind and quality of life in general. When we forget to be grateful for what we have, we start seeing a lot of negativity around us. The more negativity we see, the more it pushes out all the good. We may also develop a ‘victim’ mindset and feel as if everyone is out to belittle us. We may feel not worthy of love and kindness, and even start rejecting the good things that happen to us. This is a very unhealthy cycle to be in.
When you are grateful, you see the meaning in everything you do, you see the Why behind it. That’s why practicing gratitude is so important if you want to change your life around and attract more positivity.
Now that you have done your reflections on 2020 and have the facts laid out straight, it is time to look through them and see what you are grateful for. If you cannot find anything to be grateful for, then maybe you need to revisit the first step and do it again. There must be something positive, no matter how small.
Now go through the good things that happened and write the following:
- Write down the things you are grateful for. You should get at least three, but you can write as many as you wish.
- Choose 3 to 5 things you are most grateful for that you would like to carry over to 2021.
- Choose a few things you are grateful for that are unique to 2020.
The purpose of the last step is mainly to reinforce the idea that 2020 wasn’t all bad and there are some positives to be taken from it. For example, I am grateful for all the time I was able to spend with my family during the lockdowns, with the schools being closed. I am also grateful for my family staying safe and healthy through the pandemic.
Do this step today, and in the next post we will look at what we can do with these two steps to improve our wellbeing in 2021.
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